I got my hair cut yesterday by a hairdresser! Doesn't sound like much I know but it was a rather landmark moment in my life since I have cut my own hair for the last 10 or so years. Nothing special just a trim, the same length all the way round, but how I hated doing it! But the alternative was worse, going to a hairdresser's. You see, I have Asperger's and my whole life I've been uncomfortable at the hair salon and as I got older it got worse and worse until it reached the point where I can remember my last professional haircut distinctly. Nothing tragic happened, I just decided once and for all I wasn't subjecting myself to that anymore.
You see there are two things about going to the hairdresser's that make me want to run out of there screaming. One, I have personal space issues. I don't like anyone entering my personal space and it is very hard for someone to cut my hair without not only entering my personal space but also touching me. This is a big no-no. Do not touch me unless I initiate it! Secondly, I am unable to chit-chat and prefer not to talk unless there is a point to the conversation. At a hairdresser's they start talking to you right away, asking questions, trying to come up with a topic of conversation to babble on about while they cut your hair. This absolutely terrifies me. The thought of it is unbearable and the experience is excruciating. That's why I quit going.
Anyway, after all these years we finally (hello? anyone home?) came up with the brilliant idea of advertising for someone to come into our home to cut my hair. So we put an add on craigslist and a local lady answered right away. My husband did all the arranging. He told her my problem. Asked her not to talk to me unless it was actually about my hair. And she told not to worry she works exclusively with people at home and everything will be fine.
So she arrived here yesterday. I don't look people in the eye (another thing that makes it hard for me to go into a hairdresser's or many other places). And while looking over her shoulder told her what I wanted and then she added some extra comments on what she could do and it sounded great so she got to work. At first I had my hands clenched and bit my lip as she touched me but eventually I got used to it, and her not speaking helped me relax sooooo much. Then I started asking questions as to what she was doing and she answered me very nicely without every going on to chit-chatting. It was a great experience. I'll certainly be having her back. And I finally have a nice hair do! It's the same do I've been giving myself but with an invisible layer and lots of thinning (I have thick hair), so I finally really love my hair!
I'm going to leave you all with a video I made a while ago (pre new hair cut) that I will be putting up on youtube one of these days (having technical issues at the moment) as I am going to be making some vlogs about living with Asperger's as an adult.